As a woman, you know how difficult it is to get a man to understand you. You are talking to him but you get the look like you just spoke a foreign language. This is really annoying and can some time make you feel fed up with each other. So how do you get him to understand you? Try implementing these tips on how to get a man to understand you and you will finally feel better.
*Give him some space
Men hate nagging women and love being given their space. If he is busy watching his favorite football team playing, playing video games or having a good time with his friends, don’t even demand his attention because it is not the best time. If you do so, you will be wasting your words because he will not be listening as he will feel like you are nagging him. So the best way is to just tell him that you got something important to tell him and then step away so he come looking for you. Giving him some space will make him understand you more.
Men love to be appreciated. So the more you appreciate him, the more he’ll want to understand you. Therefore, appreciate him as you try to get him to understand you more. If he pause a video game so he can listen to what you have to say and you are happy with the attention, ensure you let him know.
If he does not understand that you need him to listen to you, then don’t get upset and start yelling at him saying that he never listens to you. If you start with that, he will shut down immediately so everything you have to say afterwards will fall on deaf ears. So be patient with him and start the conversation with the problem at hand and you will see how he will be more open to talk and understand you.
*Engage him more in the conversation
You can do this by asking him if he understands. As you are talking to him and you notice the look of “I’m not really listening stare”, just stop and ask him if he is really following you. In case it does not seem like he is then the best thing is to just go back and explain it better. Tell him how much you value his input on the topic and you want to make sure he understands what you’re talking about. This way he’ll appreciate that you care a lot about what he thinks and will get to understand you more. In addition, ask him if he has any questions too because that way you can explain anything he has missed.
*Tell him what you actually want to hear
Men naturally don’t understand what you want from them to make you feel better so the best way to get him to understand you is to tell him. If there are some things you don’t like to hear, tell him what you love to hear from a man so he understands you better. For example, if you hate complements make him know that so you avoid uncomfortable situations.
*Avoid talking to him when he is not in the mood especially when upset.
*Ask him when he is ready to pay attention to you.
*Be straight forward with him.
These tips won’t work overnight so don’t think doing them once will get your man to understand you forever. The key is to be patient and try each strategy until you find the one that works for your man.